Kids losing their shit

[Crescent]

http://www.switched.com/2007/08/08/caught-on-tape-the-5-greatest-gamer-freakouts/

[shalvi]

I think that German one is a fake, but damn, that was awesome!

[Hendo]

What kind of kid tells their mother to get them a motherfucking chocolate milk, calls her a fucking bitch, and tells her to shut the fuck up?

I don't think you should beat your kids, but seriously... that kid needs a beating.

[speedymarie]

What kind of kid tells their mother to get them a motherfucking chocolate milk, calls her a fucking bitch, and tells her to shut the fuck up?

I don't think you should beat your kids, but seriously... that kid needs a beating.
Kids whose parents have never set any kind of limits, whose parents give in whenever the kids whines or argues.

I'm reading an awesome book right now about classroom management that totally addresses this. Most parents and teachers get sucked into arguements with kids, rather than saying "You can [stop doing X], or you can [suffer X consequence]." And then FOLLOWING THROUGH if the kid keeps pushing. No arguing about it. No yelling. But the parent has to be consistant, and NEVER give in. No beating necessary.

Theory is that kids push adults to test their limits. Adults say one thing, but in action do another thing. If you say "It's not nice to call names." the kid doesn't hear "stop" and keeps doing it. The parent or teacher then says "We don't do that, its rude" or "Why are you being so disrespectful." Or even "Stop being mean." But if the kid keeps it up, keeps testing the limits, all that happens is more lectures and maybe some threats that aren't followed through on. The kid learns that even though the adult says to stop, the adult won't MAKE them stop, and the bad behavior escalates, and you end up with kids who curse out their parents.

If you say, "If you call me a name like that again, I'll lock up your XBox for the rest of the week," and then when the kid pushes the limit, you follow through. The XBox gets locked in a closet - no debates or arguments. And if the kid whines or throws a fit, the adult can't get sucked into a debate about whether or not they are "mean" or "unfair." It's just "I told you what would happen if you did that, and that's what happened. This conversation is over."

Eventually, the kid learns that you mean what you say. With older ones who've gotten used to the adult giving in, it takes longer. But according to lots and lots of education research, it works...

[Gass]

What kind of kid tells their mother to get them a motherfucking chocolate milk, calls her a fucking bitch, and tells her to shut the fuck up?

I don't think you should beat your kids, but seriously... that kid needs a beating.

A kid who's parents say and do those things...and communists.

[Better Days]

Kids whose parents have never set any kind of limits, whose parents give in whenever the kids whines or argues.

I'm reading an awesome book right now about classroom management that totally addresses this. Most parents and teachers get sucked into arguements with kids, rather than saying "You can [stop doing X], or you can [suffer X consequence]." And then FOLLOWING THROUGH if the kid keeps pushing. No arguing about it. No yelling. But the parent has to be consistant, and NEVER give in. No beating necessary.

Theory is that kids push adults to test their limits. Adults say one thing, but in action do another thing. If you say "It's not nice to call names." the kid doesn't hear "stop" and keeps doing it. The parent or teacher then says "We don't do that, its rude" or "Why are you being so disrespectful." Or even "Stop being mean." But if the kid keeps it up, keeps testing the limits, all that happens is more lectures and maybe some threats that aren't followed through on. The kid learns that even though the adult says to stop, the adult won't MAKE them stop, and the bad behavior escalates, and you end up with kids who curse out their parents.

If you say, "If you call me a name like that again, I'll lock up your XBox for the rest of the week," and then when the kid pushes the limit, you follow through. The XBox gets locked in a closet - no debates or arguments. And if the kid whines or throws a fit, the adult can't get sucked into a debate about whether or not they are "mean" or "unfair." It's just "I told you what would happen if you did that, and that's what happened. This conversation is over."

Eventually, the kid learns that you mean what you say. With older ones who've gotten used to the adult giving in, it takes longer. But according to lots and lots of education research, it works...
That was brilliantly said. Wish I had kids to test that on.